Anonymous column

“You have an STD” is hard news to take. It is shocking and terrifying at first. It feels lonely. I was 17 when I first found out I had STDs, my mom got a call from the doctor saying I have HPV and Chlamydia aka “the clap.” I thought I was a monster and unlovable. 

I thought I was alone and would never be able to have sex again. It took time but I realized after meeting so many women with STDs and hearing their stories, that I was not alone. HPV is the most common STD and most sexually active people have gotten this disease at some point in their lives.

There are 40 different types with some causing genital warts and others cervical cancer. You can get HPV by having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who has the virus. When I look at a person I don’t look at their disease, I look at their soul. However it is very crucial once someone has an STD to be responsible for having safe sex and being honest.

It’s hard to admit to someone you have an STD but it’s better to have it be made aware to a possible sexual partner, than hidden. Condoms protect against sex when used properly. You can find condoms for free at the Student Health Center. If you’re reading this and have a STD, know a disease does not define you. If you are reading this and do not have an STD, make sure you are always asking questions and using protection with partners. Always get tested or go get check ups if you are sexually active.

You don’t have to feel incomplete or broken with an STD. If you need someone to talk to anonymously about STDs or want to find out more information go to the tumblr stdrealtalkarmstrong and I’ll answer questions as best as I can. Have an awesome week and know you’re beautiful.      

Sincerely,

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