How to Love the Ones You Love


“Heart” by Molly DG is licensed under CC BY 2.0

You may have heard talk recently about a person’s Love Language, and you may have even got asked about yours.

A person’s love language is the personalized, characteristic way they receive and show love to others around them. There are five main love languages: Words of Affirmation, Gift Giving/Receiving, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Quality Time. The ways we prefer to receive and give love can be the same or can be vastly different.

Words of Affirmation are utilized encouraging messages or notes to convey something to another person. Typically, someone who identifies with Words of Affirmation as their love language will prefer handwritten cards over a materialistic good and will give that in return.

Gift Giving/Receiving is all about showing a person you thought about them through a random good. Someone who identifies with Gift Giving/Receiving as their love language will find that a thoughtful gift is the best way to convey affection.

Acts of Service revolves around supporting another person by doing things that are helpful for them, such as running an errand or knocking something off their to-do list.

Physical Touch doesn’t just encompass the sexual nature of it. Physical Touch is all about the little things- holding hands, giving hugs, back rubs, etc. Someone who identifies with Physical Touch as their love language will appreciate the smallest details.

Quality Time is just as it sounds- spending time with your loved ones. This love language is all about putting in the time and effort to do something the other person would enjoy doing. Someone who identifies with Quality Time as their love language will prefer the joy of the memories made from the time spent together.

You can identify your love language or take the official love language test to figure out how you best receive and show love this Valentine’s Day.