It seems like many people have trouble talking about sex. As a member of a gender and sexual minority, I would like to say that we talk about sex more than the average but even that is a little pathetic. This silence is a societal problem. Our STD rates and unplanned pregnancy rates are much higher than they need to be. The orgasm success rate of my straight female friends should be a huge red flag that we do not know enough about sex.

I don’t care whether you are having sex or not. You should have sex if you want to and not have sex if you don’t. Your sex life is your business and your choice, but let’s start to talk about those choices.

I will start by clearing up some things about sex. Gay people’s sex is no stranger than straight people’s sex. Some couples only ever do one position. Some people can’t enjoy it unless it involves leather and at least three spoons. And this might not be as uncommon as one might think. Of course, we would know if we just talked about sex more often. You might learn some new things, anything from non-monogamy to asexuality. Sex can come in all sorts of forms and shades.

There are some negative stereotypes associated with people who talk about sex. They might be sluts or perverts. But, in my experience, there is little correlation between what people talk about and what they do. It would seem that LGBT people tend to be a little more open about it. But I find the correlation to be more to do with being kicked out of the religious organizations that have restrictions on sex than anything about the individual’s behavior. Religion can be a great guiding force for many people, and unfortunately, many people are pushed out of these organizations for reasons related to sex and sexuality. But this creates an openness amongst these people to talk about things that were once taboo.

I encourage people to talk about sex. Talk about the sex you are having. Talk about the sex you are not having. Talk about why you have chosen not to have sex. Talk about why you have chosen to have sex. Talk about the sex you chose to engage in and the sex you chose not to. Talk about the medical and scientific side of sex. Talk about the social implications of sex. Unveil the mysteries of sex. Knowledge is power.